As a dating coach, one of the things I am struck with so often is how little time a guy gives to thinking about the image he projects. The image you project is what makes people take notice of, and treat you exactly how you expect to be treated. Are you treated with respect? Or like a doormat?
For example, if you stand slouched over, looking down and speaking in a whispered voice, you are absolutely projecting a severe lack of confidence and you will be treated that way. Conversely, if you stand erect, shoulders back, looking straight ahead as if you own the sidewalk, people respond to that signal as well. Experiment with it.
There is evidence everywhere that proves my point. As part of the animal kingdom, we are conditioned to respond to certain stimuli instinctively. No doubt you have heard of the "fight or flight" instinct. The fight or flight instinct says that faced with certain stimuli, fear for example, you have a choice to run like hell, or you can stand your ground and fight what it is that is creating the fear.
Here is an example of my thinking. If you are walking down the street, and sitting on a park bench are three men wearing black leather jackets, blue jeans, tee shirts, and black boots, what is your immediate thought about these men? Bikers. Right. Scary bikers? Depends on your opinion of bikers, but they are bikers. Period. Even if you don't see any motorcycle anywhere, right? Right.
But what if I were to tell that they were actually accountants five days a week, but dress like bikers on weekends. Would that change your opinion of them? Yes, it would. The point is that they have decided to behave in a such way that projects an image that they want to project. And, certain women will respond to that image. The image of the loner biker. The rebel without a cause. Most likely those same women would not respond in the same to accountants! Who would??? Just kidding.
The point I am making is simple. If you do not like who you are, change. If you don't like the fact that women don't respond to you, change the way you behave toward women. But what should I do Mike? Well, I will tell you.
What men do you know that have no problem getting women? Think of them. How do they behave? How do they dress? How do the wear their hair, talk, walk? Are they rebels? Do they wear leather? Do they wear preppy clothes or golf shirts?
What women do you want to attract? Where do they hang-out? Who do they like? They like strong, cocky, funny guys. They like guys that bust on them, and take no crap from them.. They like guys that call them on it when they whine.
Take a look at yourself and decide if you are a man that women would want to be with. I don't mean your looks. I mean your clothes, hair, and attitude. If you are not, change yourself. Buy some new clothes. Smile less. Appear indifferent. Practice behaving that way every time to talk to a women whether you are in a supermarket, restaurant, school or work. You will be surprised how they begin to react to you.
Well, that is it for today's lesson. Good luck!!
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